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  • Meditation
    • ‘Meditation’ April 2017
      • A ‘Mandala of Love’ approach to Meditation
      • Self-Inquiry – Familiarising ourselves with Consciousness
      • The Content of the Mind is Not Important
      • Non-Duality – Buddha, Jesus, and Plato
      • Objectivity – Meditation and Thinking
    • ‘Meditation’ 2017 May-Jun
      • René Descartes’ Error
      • Mindfulness – The Buddha’s ‘Remembering’ practice
      • Egoic consciousness – Divided against itself
      • Nurturing an Authentic Self
      • The Four Brahmavihāras – Four Attitudes of Consciousness
      • Mettā – Consciousness as Loving-Kindness
      • The Ethical and Relational Nature of Consciousness
      • The Brahmavihāras – the Soul’s Moral Compass
    • ‘Meditation’ Jul-Aug 2017
      • Upekṣā – Equanimity – Touching the Cosmic Stillness
      • Resting the Mental Body in the Field of Consciousness
      • The Mirror of Consciousness and the Mirror of Narcissism
      • The Hara – the Mysterious Second Chakra
      • The ‘Hell Realms’ – Inner Victims and Inner Persecutors
      • Muditā – Sympathetic Joy – A Sense of Wonder
    • ‘Meditation’ Sept-Oct 2017
      • Sympathetic Joy – an Attitude and an Energetic State
      • Zen and the Art of Human Life
      • Zazen – Just Sitting – Resting as Consciousness
      • Plato’s Cave Revisited
      • The Yin and Yang of Embodied Consciousness
    • ‘Meditation’ Nov-Dec 2017
      • Feeling – The Discernment of Goodness, Value and Beauty
      • Mettā – Living as Love and Contentment
      • Mettā – Healing the Egoic Shadow of Love
    • ‘Meditation’ Jan-Apr 2018
      • The Preta Realm – Deprivation, Despair, and Addiction
      • Flowing with the Currents of Feeling – our Psychological Parts
      • Mettā – Being Unconditionally Present with Feeling
      • Empathy and Self-Empathy – Communication and Self-Enquiry
    • ‘Meditation’ May-Aug 2018
      • Feminine and Masculine – Energy and Presence
      • The Yin and Yang of Love and Compassion
      • The Asura Realm – Intuition and the Egoic Will
      • The Mandala and the Stupa
      • The Somatic Anatomy of the Energy Bodies
      • The Mandala of the Four Brahmavihāras
    • ‘Meditation’ Sept-Oct 2018
      • Consciousness, Meditation and the Four Qualia
      • The Beneficial Life Energy of Needs
      • Life Energies of Presence and Connection
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      • Compassion and the All-Accomplishing Wisdom
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      • The Dharmadhātu Wisdom
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      • The Emptiness of Form – the Rūpa Skandha
  • NVC
    • Nonviolent Communication (NVC) – Mandala Wisdom
  • Book Sections
    • Book Sections April 2017
      • Preface to ‘A Mandala of Love: Consciousness, Ethics and Society’
      • Introduction to the Mandala of Love book blog
      • The Cross and the Mandala
    • Book Sections May-Jun 2017
      • Carl Jung’s Psychology of the Archetypes
      • The Mandala as the Landscape of the Soul
      • Buddhas and Bodhisattvas – Archetypes of Consciousness
      • Jung’s Phenomenology of the Soul
      • Egoic Consciousness and its Shadow
  • Home
  • Meditation
    • ‘Meditation’ April 2017
      • A ‘Mandala of Love’ approach to Meditation
      • Self-Inquiry – Familiarising ourselves with Consciousness
      • The Content of the Mind is Not Important
      • Non-Duality – Buddha, Jesus, and Plato
      • Objectivity – Meditation and Thinking
    • ‘Meditation’ 2017 May-Jun
      • René Descartes’ Error
      • Mindfulness – The Buddha’s ‘Remembering’ practice
      • Egoic consciousness – Divided against itself
      • Nurturing an Authentic Self
      • The Four Brahmavihāras – Four Attitudes of Consciousness
      • Mettā – Consciousness as Loving-Kindness
      • The Ethical and Relational Nature of Consciousness
      • The Brahmavihāras – the Soul’s Moral Compass
    • ‘Meditation’ Jul-Aug 2017
      • Upekṣā – Equanimity – Touching the Cosmic Stillness
      • Resting the Mental Body in the Field of Consciousness
      • The Mirror of Consciousness and the Mirror of Narcissism
      • The Hara – the Mysterious Second Chakra
      • The ‘Hell Realms’ – Inner Victims and Inner Persecutors
      • Muditā – Sympathetic Joy – A Sense of Wonder
    • ‘Meditation’ Sept-Oct 2017
      • Sympathetic Joy – an Attitude and an Energetic State
      • Zen and the Art of Human Life
      • Zazen – Just Sitting – Resting as Consciousness
      • Plato’s Cave Revisited
      • The Yin and Yang of Embodied Consciousness
    • ‘Meditation’ Nov-Dec 2017
      • Feeling – The Discernment of Goodness, Value and Beauty
      • Mettā – Living as Love and Contentment
      • Mettā – Healing the Egoic Shadow of Love
    • ‘Meditation’ Jan-Apr 2018
      • The Preta Realm – Deprivation, Despair, and Addiction
      • Flowing with the Currents of Feeling – our Psychological Parts
      • Mettā – Being Unconditionally Present with Feeling
      • Empathy and Self-Empathy – Communication and Self-Enquiry
    • ‘Meditation’ May-Aug 2018
      • Feminine and Masculine – Energy and Presence
      • The Yin and Yang of Love and Compassion
      • The Asura Realm – Intuition and the Egoic Will
      • The Mandala and the Stupa
      • The Somatic Anatomy of the Energy Bodies
      • The Mandala of the Four Brahmavihāras
    • ‘Meditation’ Sept-Oct 2018
      • Consciousness, Meditation and the Four Qualia
      • The Beneficial Life Energy of Needs
      • Life Energies of Presence and Connection
    • ‘Meditation’ Nov-Dec 2018
      • Compassion and the All-Accomplishing Wisdom
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    • Buddhism 2019
      • The Dharmadhātu Wisdom
      • Akashadhateshvari – Luminous Space
      • The Five Skandhas – Dakini Wisdom
      • The Five Skandhas – the Cognitive-Perceptual Components
      • The Emptiness of Form – the Rūpa Skandha
  • NVC
    • Nonviolent Communication (NVC) – Mandala Wisdom
  • Book Sections
    • Book Sections April 2017
      • Preface to ‘A Mandala of Love: Consciousness, Ethics and Society’
      • Introduction to the Mandala of Love book blog
      • The Cross and the Mandala
    • Book Sections May-Jun 2017
      • Carl Jung’s Psychology of the Archetypes
      • The Mandala as the Landscape of the Soul
      • Buddhas and Bodhisattvas – Archetypes of Consciousness
      • Jung’s Phenomenology of the Soul
      • Egoic Consciousness and its Shadow
April 22, 2017

This is the first post in a series of articles on ‘NVC’ – the ‘Nonviolent Communication’ model of Marshall Rosenberg.

One of my greatest inspirations has been the work of the late Marshall Rosenberg (October 6, 1934 – February 7, 2015), who wrote Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life. Rosenberg, and the world-wide community of students who have worked with him, have created an inspiring communication skills and self-awareness model that is deeper and more challenging than anything comparable. Marshall trained as a clinical psychologist, but worked outside the medical and academic mainstream. In using the term Nonviolent Communication (NVC for short), he was consciously identifying himself with the intellectual tradition and with the struggles for social justice through nonviolent direct action, of Dr Martin Luther King and Mahatma Gandhi.

Another Spontaneous Expression of the Universal Mandala-Wisdom

From my point of view, as a student of Consciousness and archetypal psychology, what makes NVC so interesting, is its obvious similarity with the mandala-wisdom that we find in Tibetan Buddhism, in Carl Jung’s archetypal psychology, in the Native North American ‘medicine wheel’ traditions, in the four ‘elements’ of Western Astrology, and in numerous other places. It is of the nature of the mandala archetype, that the same wisdom appears in many different cultural forms that have evolved entirely independently of each other. It seems that wherever, and whenever, individuals are seeking spiritual truth, we frequently see the emergence of this mandala-form wisdom, and in my view Marshall Rosenberg and the NVC tradition have made a profound and very practical contribution to that body of wisdom-knowledge.

A Psychology to support Ethical and Relational Consciousness

It is because NVC expresses universal truths that it is, I believe, a contribution that has the potential to become a powerful force for cultural evolution. By bringing consciousness to bear so effectively on our thoughts, words and deeds, it shows us the quality of our relationships, and the power dynamics that get in the way of those relationships. More clearly than anything else that I have found, it shows us the psychological basis of ethics. The truths contained in this model show us very clearly, and in a very concrete practical way, what it is to think, speak and act ethically. They hold the potential to show us what love is – actually, in practice.

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A Distillation of the Best of Humanistic Psychology

Although I hope to show, in the following series of blog posts, that the NVC model is much more than this, it is usually initially described as a combination, distillation, and development, of the powerful and well-researched understandings in the Humanistic Psychology of Carl Rogers and Abraham Maslow – those giants of the academic discipline of Psychology in the 1950s and 1960s. The NVC communication model evolved out of the psychotherapeutic principles and practices that Rogers and Maslow established, but it has grown to a point where it can no longer be identified with, or restrained by, the assumptions of that tradition.

In the later posts in this ‘Communication and Relationships’ series, I hope to present a personal perspective on the model, which will aim to both highlight the ultimately spiritual nature of the empowerment that is inherent in NVC, and highlight the value of NVC for any serious spiritual practitioner from any spiritual tradition. I cannot help feeling that one of the ways we can promote Marshal Rosenberg’s NVC to a wider audience is by highlighting its universality – its beautiful alignment with the mandala archetype and the whole body of mandala-wisdom. It is a tragedy that NVC is not better known and understood.

A Mandala of Communication Skills

Although there are a great number of enriching spiritual connections that I would like to make in connection with NVC, I need to start by setting out some of the basic principles, and probably the best place to start is with the four components of NVC. As NVC emerged into the distinct body of knowledge that Marshal Rosenberg presented in his book, it became clear that there were four key components that we need to bring awareness to, if we are endeavouring to communicate in a way that could be characterised as nonviolent, or compassionate, or conscious, or as having completeness and integrity. These four components are termed Observations, Feelings, Needs and Requests, and I hope to be writing blog posts to address each of these in the near future.

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Marshall pointed out however, that there are two overarching requirements, without which attempts to use the four components of NVC is either less effective, ineffective, or actually negative in their effects. These are quite subtle and often overlooked. These two requirements are usually described as (1) having our awareness in the present; and (2) having the intention to connect. An understanding of these two needs is fundamental to the practice of the model, and I will be writing posts about them as soon as possible.

Let it suffice to say at this stage that NVC is a very profound personal development tool. Its engagement with the details of our language habits makes it very practical. It is also very deep. It gives great importance to the idea of self-empathy – our relationship with ourselves – so it takes us very quickly into the same territory of spiritual self-inquiry that I have been addressing in my ‘Meditation Guidance’ series of posts, and also in the ‘Book Sections’ series.

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The Beneficial Life Energy of Needs
Life Energies of Presence and Connection
Compassion and the All-Accomplishing Wisdom

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